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"Do you know when you'll be chatting with the band?" an inquiry arrives. "I was hoping to ask if I can be their extra sister."

However, there remains one problem: I also desires to be the Haims' additional sibling. And we're far from alone. Several famous admirers have openly begged for the role.

One thing is obvious a special quality is going on. The siblings Este, Danielle and Alana began their career performing shows at small eateries with their family. Today, they are multi-time Grammy hopefuls.

Similar to the most iconic bands, they're a tight-knit trio. Their music videos repeatedly depict them striding in harmony down the roads of Los Angeles. On stage, they perform with such boundless happiness you find yourself thinking, "I wish to be part of that, too."

"How often on tour that audience members approached us and said, 'Watching you live, I bought a bass'," remarks Alana, the youngest of the sisters. "That's the ultimate compliment. That's an award in itself. Our mission is accomplished if we can encourage others to form a group."

"Therefore anyone gets an invitation to be the fourth part of the family."

Award Nod

The trio are speaking from home, where they're taking a pause after an major tour in promoting their fourth album, I Quit.

They're currently reeling from the news it's been shortlisted for a top rock honor at the Grammy Awards – with Haim the pioneering all-woman band ever in the running for the trophy.

"I watch the nominations every year, so it almost feels like an out-of-body experience when your name is announced," notes Alana. "I had to call my sisters to say, 'Am I hearing this correctly or am I dreaming'?"

The weight of the accolade resonates with the band.

"We deliberately set out to make a guitar-driven album this time, so it's a huge achievement," says Alana. "Yet we're just grateful for the women that inspired us."

Personal Turmoil and Laughter

The project emerged from a period of emotional upheaval. All three sisters were single, and the music explores that strange liminal space where you're happy to be free, but not entirely ready to move on.

The lyrics detail endings and farewells. The sisters want love, but not the specific love they've experienced. You can hear them working out in real time who they aspire to be.

"That's a perfect description, yes," responds Danielle. "I Quit is kind of like a personal statement. You have to make an effort in shutting out the noise and saying, 'I don't give what people think'."

Development of Music

That recent toughness demanded a fresh approach – more unpolished and immediate than any of the music the band had done before.

For Danielle, who helped produce the album, that started with the percussion.

"The drum sound is such a nuanced thing, and I focus so intensely about it," she says.

"'Journey of the drum sound' will be the name of our book," quips Alana. "Our motto is, our albums don't start until we find the perfect drum sound."

Stories and Collective Laughter

The trio's openness fueled the album's rollout, where the sisters disclosed some of their personal horror stories.

A former partner ended things with Este over a health consideration. Alana recalled a story of flying to celebrate New Year's Eve with someone, only to receive a high five at midnight.

"During these heartbreaks, you just feel like there's no light," says Alana. "Thus to be able to share those stories and hear others tell you wilder stories, it's so amazing."

A Secure Future

You can clearly sense a shift in the band. These days, Haim are more confident of their position in the music world.

They're major draws, with successful albums and an global fan base.

But Haim will forever be their top commitment.

"Me and my siblings have been playing music since I was little," says Alana. "It's like no alternative that we were destined for. And I'm really fortunate we've made it and we're still kicking."